Looking to others for validation is like trying to fill a bucket with a hole in it. You might get a few drops, but eventually, it all leaks out, and you’re left scrambling for more. Instead of relying on external opinions, how about finding validation in the one place that’s always with you – YOURSELF! (I know, groundbreaking.) But let’s break it down into some practical (and sassy) ways to boost your confidence when work tries to shake it.
1. Focus on Your Strengths (OYA: Own Your Awesome)
You’ve got strengths – Yes, you. Stop rolling your eyes and take a moment to think about what you’re really good at. Are you the go-to for creative problem-solving? A wizard with words? A master of rallying the troops? A strategic savant? Write those things down and tape them where you’ll see them daily. Confidence grows when you lean into what makes you shine, so quit hiding your sparkle just because someone else brought glitter.
2. Redefine Expectations (Perfection is a Lie)
Spoiler Alert: Nobody has it all figured out (even that smug coworker who seems like they do). Unrealistic expectations are confidence killers, so give yourself some grace. Did you do your best? Did you make forward progress? Then you’re winning. Aim for excellence, not perfection, and redefine what “success” means to YOU. It’s a lot easier to feel confident when you’re playing by your own rules.
3. Normalize Insecurity (Yep, It’s Human)
Feeling insecure doesn’t mean you’re bad at your job; it means you’re human. Even Beyoncé probably has moments of doubt (maybe not, but let’s pretend). Instead of letting insecurity paralyze you, acknowledge it, then keep moving forward. If you’ve never done something, of course there’s some level of insecurity. Confidence isn’t about never feeling insecure; it’s about refusing to let it hold you hostage.
4. Find Your Role Models (Borrow Their Magic)
Who inspires you? Who’s living the life or leading in a way that makes you think, I want to be like that!? Pay attention to how they carry themselves and handle challenges. Channel their vibe until it feels like your own. Think of it as borrowing someone else’s confidence outfit until yours fits just right.
Confidence isn’t about being perfect or fearless. It’s about trusting that you’ve got what it takes to figure things out, even when the road gets bumpy. Take a deep breath, stand tall, and remind yourself that you’re capable, brilliant, and just the right amount of badass. Now go show ‘em who’s boss because you already are. And if you want a helping hand, let’s talk.